We are proud to be independent funeral directors based in Montrose, Scotland. At a time when many funeral homes are being sold to large shareholder driven corporations, we remain proudly a Scottish independently owned and operated funeral home.

Email: James Collier (j_collier@hotmail.co.uk)
Registered Office: Emslie Collier Funeral Directors, Broomfield Road, Montrose, DD10 8SZ
Registration Number: 02511598

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Helping Parents With The Death Of Their Child

Losing a child is a pain that no parent expects to have to suffer, and one that no-one but a parent can hope to understand. Parents invest a great deal of time and energy in their children and hope to watch them grow up and have happy, fulfilled adult lives. They don’t expect to be alive when their children die.

It doesn’t matter how old the child is when they die: two or thirty-two, sick or normally healthy, it’s still too soon. Their parents will feel disbelief, anger, fear, despair. If it’s an only child who dies they can feel very hopeless and without purpose.

If the child was already grown up there may be other problems to cope with, on top of the grief, such as disposing of the child’s home and its contents or becoming guardians of grandchildren.

Where there are other children in the family, parents may become over-protective of them, become reliant on the other children for support, or even become distant from them. The children may become needy or difficult in response. Or the whole family could be brought closer by the tragedy.

Questions & Answers

How You Can Help

Some parents will want to talk about their child, while others will prefer not to. Being a good listener and sharing photos and memories of the child will help if they want to talk. Respecting their silence, if that’s what works for them, is just as helpful.

Offer practical help, if it’s wanted, such as doing shopping, walking the dog, or telling relevant people about the child’s death, which can be very hard for the parents to do. Many families, however, will prefer to do everything themselves. Make sure they know you’re there if they need you and leave them to work through it by themselves.

These Organisations Regulate How Member Companies Operate Their Businesses Via Their Respective Codes Of Practice.
The National Society of Allied And Independent Funeral Directors
Golden Charter Funeral Plan
National Association Of Funeral Directors
Robertson Memorials