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After A Person Has Committed Suicide

If someone you love has committed suicide, you are likely to feel anger, guilt, distress, disbelief and a whole range of other emotions.

Most people understand that people don’t take their own lives on impulse. Even if it looks as though one thing triggered the act, it’s likely only to have been the last straw: the situation will have been building up for some time. Your loved one may have shown no sign of mental illness or may have a history of depression; either way, nothing you could have said or done would have made any difference.

That can be hard to accept. Many people think “if only I’d done this, or that...”. But if someone is in a state where they feel the best thing they can do is take their own life, there is nothing you can do, so try not to blame yourself.

Your loved one may have given you plenty of warnings, and even attempted suicide on previous occasions. That places an enormous burden on you, and you may be relieved that it’s actually over – which can make you feel guilty about your relief. It’s a natural reaction to the end of the stress so, again, don’t blame yourself. You will have done everything you could in the past; this time they got the better of you.

Questions & Answers

If you can’t let yourself believe that your loved one really did commit suicide, and instead try to persuade yourself that it was all a horrible accident, it may take longer for you to accept their death and to get over it. Talking to a counsellor at the Samaritans or at Cruse could help you come to terms with your emotions; or you can write them down, and then destroy what you’ve written. Either way, it will help you clear your mind and find closure.

Don’t try to find reasons for what your loved one did: they did what they had to do at the time. You may never understand what drove them to it because, hopefully, you will never be in the same situation. Instead, learn to come to terms with it and accept it as best you can, however long that takes, and don’t blame your loved one for ending what was, for them, an intolerable life.

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